One of the jams traditions is to reveal our "highs and lows" from the year ending and share goals moving into the next. In 2012, I have decided that my goal is to stay hungry and stay foolish – per Steve Jobs' advice.
In 2011, I learned who I was. I was able to define myself as an honest, caring, giving person and I am determined to remain the same. I learned more about myself in one year than in the 25 past. That being said, I have been offered the opportunity by my company to move to our new Los Angeles office, and I have humbly accepted. As of February 1, I will be a resident of sunny California.
It's no secret that I have moved many times before, but for the first time, I am doing this for myself. This move inspires significant growth in both my career and my personal life. I am incredibly excited about what Los Angeles has to offer and even more so about living my life to the fullest. I truly believe California will keep me both hungry and foolish.
Thank you to my family, my friends and my colleagues for loving and supporting me through my growth – I am beyond excited for this next chapter.
Cheers to 2012.
Abby
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Thursday, November 3, 2011
12 Steps to Becoming a Successful Counselor
As a PR practitioner, (and probably with every other job), it is important to take breaks from a day in the office and allow time for professional development opportunities. Whether it be a refresher of the basics, or something you’ve never learned before, I believe the insight allows for a reminder of why I love what I do every day.
On Tuesday, I attended the NCPRSA Public Relations and Marketing Seminar where I sat in a session called “Counselors Are Made, Not Born: How to Grow Into a Counselor, Not Just a Tactician” and acquired 12 steps to becoming a successful counselor. Each of these resonated with me for several reasons. Here they are:
1. Be a student of humans: In order to be an auspicious counselor, we must understand how we think and act as individuals, specifically in a group settings. In public relations, as a counselor, you will be advantageous if you continue to be fascinated by, and study others.
2. Be a student of yourself: Understand what motivates you to assist in finding what motivates others. Be aware of how you interpret situations, as well as how you react to situations. Aspire to be the best version of yourself every day.
3. Be an expert: In your business, in your clients business, in your competition, in all current trends… The more you know, the better a counselor you will serve as to others.
4. Try on someone else’s shoes: In every situation ask yourself “what would it be like to be that person?” Understanding your audience is imperative.
5. Appeal to basic human instincts: Be certain that your guidance is allowing for a solution that keeps everyone healthy, safe, and comfortable.
6. Keep it simple: Confusing your audience does not inspire clarity or reason. Speak clearly, speak honestly and leave them with one thing to remember.
7. Show that you care: Oftentimes, the power of praise is forgotten. Check your ego at the door, be respectful of colleagues, attentive to clients, and never forget to say thank you. It goes farther than you think.
8. Show a “spark”: Whether you’re in a meeting, defining a strategy or solving a problem, present something new and different. Give those you are mentoring something to think about, and more importantly something to strive for.
9. “Be the ball, Danny” (This was presented by men…naturally, there was a sports reference): Too often, we forget to trust our instincts. Successful counselors trust their gut.
10. Learn to ask and to listen: Don’t be shy about asking questions and being inquisitive, regardless of your level or leadership. As a counselor, be patient with those who have questions.
11. Choose wisely: Counsel those who are excited to learn from you. Give them extra opportunities to go out a limb. Pass your expertise down the ladder – watching them grow into a counselor themselves is extremely rewarding.
12. Go forth and conquer: Be confident in your expertise. Be confident in the fact that people trust you. Be confident in the results you produce. You are a mentor, a role model, a counselor – go forth and conquer.
On Tuesday, I attended the NCPRSA Public Relations and Marketing Seminar where I sat in a session called “Counselors Are Made, Not Born: How to Grow Into a Counselor, Not Just a Tactician” and acquired 12 steps to becoming a successful counselor. Each of these resonated with me for several reasons. Here they are:
1. Be a student of humans: In order to be an auspicious counselor, we must understand how we think and act as individuals, specifically in a group settings. In public relations, as a counselor, you will be advantageous if you continue to be fascinated by, and study others.
2. Be a student of yourself: Understand what motivates you to assist in finding what motivates others. Be aware of how you interpret situations, as well as how you react to situations. Aspire to be the best version of yourself every day.
3. Be an expert: In your business, in your clients business, in your competition, in all current trends… The more you know, the better a counselor you will serve as to others.
4. Try on someone else’s shoes: In every situation ask yourself “what would it be like to be that person?” Understanding your audience is imperative.
5. Appeal to basic human instincts: Be certain that your guidance is allowing for a solution that keeps everyone healthy, safe, and comfortable.
6. Keep it simple: Confusing your audience does not inspire clarity or reason. Speak clearly, speak honestly and leave them with one thing to remember.
7. Show that you care: Oftentimes, the power of praise is forgotten. Check your ego at the door, be respectful of colleagues, attentive to clients, and never forget to say thank you. It goes farther than you think.
8. Show a “spark”: Whether you’re in a meeting, defining a strategy or solving a problem, present something new and different. Give those you are mentoring something to think about, and more importantly something to strive for.
9. “Be the ball, Danny” (This was presented by men…naturally, there was a sports reference): Too often, we forget to trust our instincts. Successful counselors trust their gut.
10. Learn to ask and to listen: Don’t be shy about asking questions and being inquisitive, regardless of your level or leadership. As a counselor, be patient with those who have questions.
11. Choose wisely: Counsel those who are excited to learn from you. Give them extra opportunities to go out a limb. Pass your expertise down the ladder – watching them grow into a counselor themselves is extremely rewarding.
12. Go forth and conquer: Be confident in your expertise. Be confident in the fact that people trust you. Be confident in the results you produce. You are a mentor, a role model, a counselor – go forth and conquer.
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
The Small Things
Naturally, I'm a huge a fan of a big surprise. Like when Santa put tickets to Cancun in my stocking, or when Dock decided to buy me a TV for no reason. Recently, though, I've been reminded how special the small surprises are, too.
Living far away from the jam, Dizz is quick to offer to order takeout and have it delivered to my house. The Adele Pandora station through the day is huge. I have a fave that lets me dream big and send totally expensive girly gift ideas to him, always responding with a hint of promise that I may own one of the items soon. "I miss your face" text messages make me smile every time.
I also think that the same sentiments can be shared in public relations. A hand written note goes a long way. Every time. I had to make an unexpected long overnight drive to DC and when I was due back in Raleigh, a colleague called (yes, called on the phone – not a text message!!) to make sure I had made it home safely. Hearing "thank you" at the office always changes a bad day.
The list goes on and on (I'm a lucky girl) but, the point is that small gestures are important. Whether they be for a friend, or in business, I am pleased to have been reminded how meaningful the small things can be.
Side note: Oh hey, October... Where has this year gone?!
Living far away from the jam, Dizz is quick to offer to order takeout and have it delivered to my house. The Adele Pandora station through the day is huge. I have a fave that lets me dream big and send totally expensive girly gift ideas to him, always responding with a hint of promise that I may own one of the items soon. "I miss your face" text messages make me smile every time.
I also think that the same sentiments can be shared in public relations. A hand written note goes a long way. Every time. I had to make an unexpected long overnight drive to DC and when I was due back in Raleigh, a colleague called (yes, called on the phone – not a text message!!) to make sure I had made it home safely. Hearing "thank you" at the office always changes a bad day.
The list goes on and on (I'm a lucky girl) but, the point is that small gestures are important. Whether they be for a friend, or in business, I am pleased to have been reminded how meaningful the small things can be.
Side note: Oh hey, October... Where has this year gone?!
Monday, July 25, 2011
Klout for a Cure
As you know, I try to be active in giving back, volunteering and supporting charities that mean something to me. Whether it be Toys for Tots, Relay for Life, Locks of Love or the Race for the Cure, I attempt to make it a point to remain an active champion for a good cause.
That being said, I have recently been challenged to improve my Klout score to 75, and am well on my way. The competitor in me is having a hard time not being there yet, so I have decided to turn this competition into a contribution.
Now through Wednesday (since I will be in the land of no service, Minnesota after that) a dollar will be donated (up to 500) to Susan G. Komen for the Cure, for every "Like" and/or comment on my Facebook status housing this blog, and every unique re-tweet on Twitter in support of the same thing.
While this is meant to be fun, it is also to (hopefully) raise $500 to donate to Susan G. Komen for the Cure in huge hopes of someday finding a cure for cancer.
Thanks in advance!
** Note Susan G. Komen is an IMRE client.
That being said, I have recently been challenged to improve my Klout score to 75, and am well on my way. The competitor in me is having a hard time not being there yet, so I have decided to turn this competition into a contribution.
Now through Wednesday (since I will be in the land of no service, Minnesota after that) a dollar will be donated (up to 500) to Susan G. Komen for the Cure, for every "Like" and/or comment on my Facebook status housing this blog, and every unique re-tweet on Twitter in support of the same thing.
While this is meant to be fun, it is also to (hopefully) raise $500 to donate to Susan G. Komen for the Cure in huge hopes of someday finding a cure for cancer.
Thanks in advance!
** Note Susan G. Komen is an IMRE client.
Thursday, July 7, 2011
Life Changer
A few weeks ago, there was an event in my world that unexpectedly changed my life. After some reflection following the event, I figured out what's important and what's not. Mostly, how I want to live the rest of my life. Here's what I came up with.
In several capacities this year, I have been reminded of the immensity of love. Through exciting vicissitudes that have been celebrated to heartbreaking experiences that have been grieved, it has been reiterated how powerful love can be, and what a difference it makes.
I vow to love hard. I am going to fall in love with as many things as I possibly can. There are several cities that hold a special place in my heart, however, for the first time this year, I fell in love with a city (Asheville, NC) and I can't wait to find another one that makes me feel that same way.
Smart is sexy. Smart is powerful. I want to learn more. I want to earn my MBA. I want to earn my APR. I want to learn a new language. I want to never have to refer to my AP Style Handbook. And I can. And I will.
Being mean gets you absolutely nowhere. I have had some great days that have instantly turned on me because someone came out of left field with something ugly. It hurts, and I refuse to do that to someone else. I will continue to be kind. I will continue to be grateful. And I will make absolutely certain that people leave a conversation with me feeling better. Feeling good. Feeling appreciated. Praise is power. If someone does a good job with something, I will praise that.
Laughter cures all. You all know my laugh is anything but subtle. I am going to laugh hard and laugh often. I will laugh at all the wrong times. And all of the right times. I will laugh until I cry. I will laugh at things that are completely inappropriate. And I will laugh as loudly as I want without caring what anyone thinks.
I will make a concerted effort to not sweat the small stuff. I will try to not waste my imagination on worrying about what I cannot control. I will try with all of my heart to learn how to be patient. I am flawed. I am very aware that I am flawed. I am sensitive and impatient and I have been since day one. I don't know if that can change, but I promise to try.
I will tell the people I care about exactly how I feel about them. I will tell them that they've changed my life in so many incredible ways. That they've shaped me into who I am. That I miss them, all of them, every single day. That without them, I wouldn't survive. I will remind them how important they are. And I will do this often.
If the day comes, I will strive to be as amazing of a parent as both Dock and Dizz are. I will never, ever make my children feel alone. I will forgive them for their mistakes and flaws. I will hold their hand at the doctors office. Even when they're 26. I will support absolutely anything they find themselves to be passionate about. I will laugh with them, cry with them, suffer and celebrate with them. Every day.
I am saddened that something so painful happened to someone that I love very much, but I truly believe that he was brought into my life for a reason - and that has been confirmed. He taught me who I am.
In several capacities this year, I have been reminded of the immensity of love. Through exciting vicissitudes that have been celebrated to heartbreaking experiences that have been grieved, it has been reiterated how powerful love can be, and what a difference it makes.
I vow to love hard. I am going to fall in love with as many things as I possibly can. There are several cities that hold a special place in my heart, however, for the first time this year, I fell in love with a city (Asheville, NC) and I can't wait to find another one that makes me feel that same way.
Smart is sexy. Smart is powerful. I want to learn more. I want to earn my MBA. I want to earn my APR. I want to learn a new language. I want to never have to refer to my AP Style Handbook. And I can. And I will.
Being mean gets you absolutely nowhere. I have had some great days that have instantly turned on me because someone came out of left field with something ugly. It hurts, and I refuse to do that to someone else. I will continue to be kind. I will continue to be grateful. And I will make absolutely certain that people leave a conversation with me feeling better. Feeling good. Feeling appreciated. Praise is power. If someone does a good job with something, I will praise that.
Laughter cures all. You all know my laugh is anything but subtle. I am going to laugh hard and laugh often. I will laugh at all the wrong times. And all of the right times. I will laugh until I cry. I will laugh at things that are completely inappropriate. And I will laugh as loudly as I want without caring what anyone thinks.
I will make a concerted effort to not sweat the small stuff. I will try to not waste my imagination on worrying about what I cannot control. I will try with all of my heart to learn how to be patient. I am flawed. I am very aware that I am flawed. I am sensitive and impatient and I have been since day one. I don't know if that can change, but I promise to try.
I will tell the people I care about exactly how I feel about them. I will tell them that they've changed my life in so many incredible ways. That they've shaped me into who I am. That I miss them, all of them, every single day. That without them, I wouldn't survive. I will remind them how important they are. And I will do this often.
If the day comes, I will strive to be as amazing of a parent as both Dock and Dizz are. I will never, ever make my children feel alone. I will forgive them for their mistakes and flaws. I will hold their hand at the doctors office. Even when they're 26. I will support absolutely anything they find themselves to be passionate about. I will laugh with them, cry with them, suffer and celebrate with them. Every day.
I am saddened that something so painful happened to someone that I love very much, but I truly believe that he was brought into my life for a reason - and that has been confirmed. He taught me who I am.
Thursday, June 16, 2011
The Nitty Gritty
I don't typically answer these sorts of chain emails (anymore. Let's be honest, I was a big fan of FB "notes" back in the day) but I received this today, filled out by a friend, and learned a few things. There are a ridic amount of questions - but, should you be interested - here it is. Anything you could ever possibly want to know about me.
Height: 5'8
Shoe Size: 7
Sexual Orientation: Love me some southern men
Age you get mistaken for: Last night at the KP concert, I was asked which high school I go to in Raleigh
Have Tattoos? Yes. This is not something I'm particularly proud of...
Want any tattoos? Sometimes I get the urge for another. But there are no other places on my body I'd want to tattoo
Got any Piercings? Yes. Too many
Want any piercings? There isn't anything left to pierce
Best friend? The B
Biggest fears: Losing my parents
Biggest celeb crush: Andy Samburg
Favorite Movie: Love Actually
I’ll love you if: You make me laugh
Someone you miss: Dock and Dizz
Most traumatic experience: Toronto. Almost didn't make it out alive
A fact about your personality: It's big
What I hate most about myself: My lack of patience
What I love most about myself: My genuine belief that I can find the good in any situation
What I want to be when I get older: Happy
My relationship with my sibling(s): I adore the Bub
My relationship with my parents: They are the epitome of who I want to be. A combination of kindness, humility and confidence
My idea of a perfect date: Any kind of sporting event filled with a passion for the event, and lots of laughs
My biggest pet peeves: The reply all button
A description of the girl/boy I like: Honesty and the patience that I lack
A description of my best friend: The B is everything I'm not. Brilliant, courageous, and 110% confident in every decision she makes
What my last text message says: "Miss your face"
What words upset me the most: "It is what it is"
What words make me feel the best about myself: "I enjoy working with you"
A wish that I’ve wished for repeatedly on 11:11: To win the lottery
What I find attractive in boys. A good sense of humor. The ability to understand my family dynamic
Where I would like to live. I'm diggin Raleigh
One of my insecurities. A lot of people can't handle my laugh. I am insecure about that sometimes
My childhood career choice. I always knew I'd be in PR
My favorite ice cream. Ice cream hurts my belly, unfortunately. I'll only eat it on a "bad night" (ie: when Lucas and Peyton bolted) b/c I think I should. Always regret it
Who I wish I could be. I'm pretty jazzed about who I am
Where I want to be right now. In bed watching crappy TV. Or at the beach, drinking a pina colada
The last thing I ate. Filet Kabobs from Sitti. Delish.
Sexiest person that comes to my mind immediately. Sexy to me is funny. Andy Samburg (again)
A random fact about anything: John Wall is from Raleigh
Your turn!
Height: 5'8
Shoe Size: 7
Sexual Orientation: Love me some southern men
Age you get mistaken for: Last night at the KP concert, I was asked which high school I go to in Raleigh
Have Tattoos? Yes. This is not something I'm particularly proud of...
Want any tattoos? Sometimes I get the urge for another. But there are no other places on my body I'd want to tattoo
Got any Piercings? Yes. Too many
Want any piercings? There isn't anything left to pierce
Best friend? The B
Biggest fears: Losing my parents
Biggest celeb crush: Andy Samburg
Favorite Movie: Love Actually
I’ll love you if: You make me laugh
Someone you miss: Dock and Dizz
Most traumatic experience: Toronto. Almost didn't make it out alive
A fact about your personality: It's big
What I hate most about myself: My lack of patience
What I love most about myself: My genuine belief that I can find the good in any situation
What I want to be when I get older: Happy
My relationship with my sibling(s): I adore the Bub
My relationship with my parents: They are the epitome of who I want to be. A combination of kindness, humility and confidence
My idea of a perfect date: Any kind of sporting event filled with a passion for the event, and lots of laughs
My biggest pet peeves: The reply all button
A description of the girl/boy I like: Honesty and the patience that I lack
A description of my best friend: The B is everything I'm not. Brilliant, courageous, and 110% confident in every decision she makes
What my last text message says: "Miss your face"
What words upset me the most: "It is what it is"
What words make me feel the best about myself: "I enjoy working with you"
A wish that I’ve wished for repeatedly on 11:11: To win the lottery
What I find attractive in boys. A good sense of humor. The ability to understand my family dynamic
Where I would like to live. I'm diggin Raleigh
One of my insecurities. A lot of people can't handle my laugh. I am insecure about that sometimes
My childhood career choice. I always knew I'd be in PR
My favorite ice cream. Ice cream hurts my belly, unfortunately. I'll only eat it on a "bad night" (ie: when Lucas and Peyton bolted) b/c I think I should. Always regret it
Who I wish I could be. I'm pretty jazzed about who I am
Where I want to be right now. In bed watching crappy TV. Or at the beach, drinking a pina colada
The last thing I ate. Filet Kabobs from Sitti. Delish.
Sexiest person that comes to my mind immediately. Sexy to me is funny. Andy Samburg (again)
A random fact about anything: John Wall is from Raleigh
Your turn!
Thursday, June 9, 2011
DIG
A while ago, Dock and I decided to start a business. After our initial planning meeting, we named this business DIG - Draper Investment Group. Basically, the goal of our side start up company is to win the lottery. So, every Tuesday and Friday, it is mine and his responsibility to buy a (hopefully winning) lottery ticket. When one of us hits the jackpot, we will split the winnings 60 - 40. While I am the president of the company, he wins the 60 because frankly, he paid for the first, well, 25 years of my life. I probably owe him a few bucks.
So with this new endeavor, I have carefully selected Raleigh's lucky gas station and frequent this secret spot twice a week to invest in DIG. This morning, when I stopped to buy the ticket for tomorrow's drawing, "Pete" (I'm not sure that's his real name, since he can't speak a whole lot of English, but that's what he's asked me to call him now that we're friends) asked me what I would do with the winnings.
Naturally, during the rest of the drive to work (at my real job) I thought about what, exactly, I would spend all of that cash on. Before investing and saving, I came up with the first six things I would do with my 40%.
1. Pay for the rest of Bub's schooling
2. Buy my Chloe bag
3. Pay off the rest of my car
4. Head to Napa Valley for a week
5. Start a scholarship at the University of Kentucky that pays for a super fun girl interested in PR to go to school
6. Buy a bar so SL and I can make our dreams a reality
What would you do with your lottery winnings?
So with this new endeavor, I have carefully selected Raleigh's lucky gas station and frequent this secret spot twice a week to invest in DIG. This morning, when I stopped to buy the ticket for tomorrow's drawing, "Pete" (I'm not sure that's his real name, since he can't speak a whole lot of English, but that's what he's asked me to call him now that we're friends) asked me what I would do with the winnings.
Naturally, during the rest of the drive to work (at my real job) I thought about what, exactly, I would spend all of that cash on. Before investing and saving, I came up with the first six things I would do with my 40%.
1. Pay for the rest of Bub's schooling
2. Buy my Chloe bag
3. Pay off the rest of my car
4. Head to Napa Valley for a week
5. Start a scholarship at the University of Kentucky that pays for a super fun girl interested in PR to go to school
6. Buy a bar so SL and I can make our dreams a reality
What would you do with your lottery winnings?
Monday, May 2, 2011
Motivation
Today has been "one of those days" (gross cliche, I know) and when late afternoon struck, I found myself needing some extra inspiration. Naturally, I turned to the jam. The iPhone offers an app called "Group Me" which allows you to text multiple people at one time. Obviously, we have each downloaded this app so we can text each other at the same time.
I took a quick break today, to go outside and step away from the computer. While doing so, I sent a Group Me text to the jam saying "Left the office for a few to take a walk. Need motivation. Whatchya guys got?" Here were the responses. All one after the other, lasting about 10 minutes:
Dock: Trip to Baltimore on Friday to see rents
Bub: Be happy you're employed, things could be a lot worse
Bub: You get to go to the beach to see your brother in a month
Bub: You're in the south
Bub: You're prettier than 92% of all people
Dock: Smart, great family, ability to read and write
Bub: No birth defects
Dock: College degree, look good in blue, learning to whistle
Bub: Your dad tells really witty and humorous jokes
Dizz: Not married to a leprechaun
Dock: And his children inherited his sense of humor AND his bike riding posture
Note: Watching Dock ride a bike may be the best thing ever
Dock: Your bother is an intermediate horseback rider
Bub: You don't have fat people ankles
Dock: You can tell directions with your fore finger and thumb
Dizz: It's almost happy hour
Welcome to the jam...
I took a quick break today, to go outside and step away from the computer. While doing so, I sent a Group Me text to the jam saying "Left the office for a few to take a walk. Need motivation. Whatchya guys got?" Here were the responses. All one after the other, lasting about 10 minutes:
Dock: Trip to Baltimore on Friday to see rents
Bub: Be happy you're employed, things could be a lot worse
Bub: You get to go to the beach to see your brother in a month
Bub: You're in the south
Bub: You're prettier than 92% of all people
Dock: Smart, great family, ability to read and write
Bub: No birth defects
Dock: College degree, look good in blue, learning to whistle
Bub: Your dad tells really witty and humorous jokes
Dizz: Not married to a leprechaun
Dock: And his children inherited his sense of humor AND his bike riding posture
Note: Watching Dock ride a bike may be the best thing ever
Dock: Your bother is an intermediate horseback rider
Bub: You don't have fat people ankles
Dock: You can tell directions with your fore finger and thumb
Dizz: It's almost happy hour
Welcome to the jam...
Saturday, April 30, 2011
Fate
I don't typically blog about my love life, or recent lack there of, however... One of the reasons I was pretty pumped to move to my beloved south has something to do with how I feel about southern gentlemen. That being said, I have a neighbor who is totally southern - Friendly, polite, dresses like a southerner, the whole nine yards. Sounds perfect, right?
It probably could be. Except that EVERY time I see him, I look ridiculous or do something embarrassing. A huge perk at the new gig is that on most days, we can dress casually. As you all know, any time I don't have to wear make-up, straighten my hair, or dress up, I definitely take full advantage. Therefore, 90% of the time I leave in the morning and come home at night, I'm wearing jeans, a t-shirt & a cardigan, no make-up and a pony tail. Inevitably, those are also always the days I see Mr. Happy Southern Boy.
Despite the fact that I rarely put myself together, I am even more of an embarrassment on weekend afternoons. Today, for example, I ventured out to grab some Subway for lunch wearing bright red Parkersburg High School sweat pants that I have cut into "capris", a THE Ohio State University (I know, repulsive. And I still have no idea why there is a THE involved) sweatshirt with a green shirt hanging out from under it, really cute strappy sandals and the Abby bun (all of my hair thrown up on the very top of my head.) Naturally, Mr. Happy Southern Boy was on his way out at the same time.
Two other gems that stand out to me (although, I've run into him looking like a fool many more times than that) include one morning that I was leaving for work, in my car, and he smiled his southern smile. My reaction? Total prom queen wave with matching enormous, exaggerated smile. Secondly, one night coming home from the gym (work out gear, still sweating...) I ran into him while carrying a Sam's Club sized box of tampons. Both mortifying.
So now, it's almost Saturday night. It's 80-some degrees out. I should probably pull myself together, plug in the straightener, and venture out. But, knowing me, I will do all that work just to learn he's out of town.
It probably could be. Except that EVERY time I see him, I look ridiculous or do something embarrassing. A huge perk at the new gig is that on most days, we can dress casually. As you all know, any time I don't have to wear make-up, straighten my hair, or dress up, I definitely take full advantage. Therefore, 90% of the time I leave in the morning and come home at night, I'm wearing jeans, a t-shirt & a cardigan, no make-up and a pony tail. Inevitably, those are also always the days I see Mr. Happy Southern Boy.
Despite the fact that I rarely put myself together, I am even more of an embarrassment on weekend afternoons. Today, for example, I ventured out to grab some Subway for lunch wearing bright red Parkersburg High School sweat pants that I have cut into "capris", a THE Ohio State University (I know, repulsive. And I still have no idea why there is a THE involved) sweatshirt with a green shirt hanging out from under it, really cute strappy sandals and the Abby bun (all of my hair thrown up on the very top of my head.) Naturally, Mr. Happy Southern Boy was on his way out at the same time.
Two other gems that stand out to me (although, I've run into him looking like a fool many more times than that) include one morning that I was leaving for work, in my car, and he smiled his southern smile. My reaction? Total prom queen wave with matching enormous, exaggerated smile. Secondly, one night coming home from the gym (work out gear, still sweating...) I ran into him while carrying a Sam's Club sized box of tampons. Both mortifying.
So now, it's almost Saturday night. It's 80-some degrees out. I should probably pull myself together, plug in the straightener, and venture out. But, knowing me, I will do all that work just to learn he's out of town.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Milestones. What do they mean?
A friend of mine (who just became a mom for the first time) was sharing stories about different milestones her son has reached. Most of them were things I would expect - rolling over, holding his weight for a set amount of time, reacting to stories… the usual (Side note: I would still really love to learn how to spell the shortened version of usual). One that stood out to me was how excited she was about her 5 month old interacting with his toes. Prior to talking with her about its significance, I would have assumed that interaction would go unnoticed; it wouldn't stand out as a milestone.
Naturally, that led me to reflect on my own milestones. As every girl at 16 does, I had a very defined timeline filled with the obvious milestones. Graduate from high school, go to a great college, fall in love, get a degree, get married, find a job, have some kids, become "the boss" at a young age...
Hellooooo ten years later. While I have celebrated several of those "milestones," it is amazing how much my priorities have changed. What I define as a milestone now, I wouldn't have understood even six months ago.
I truly believe that there were subtle stepping stones (say that three times fast) along the way to help me define what is important, and what can wait. I graduated high school, I went to an amazing college, I fell in love, I earned a degree, I moved to a big city, and I started my first job. This is where I began to understand that change is a good thing, and I can decide what to consider a milestone for myself, and celebrate it however I want to.
I took a big chance at the end of last year, and packed up my life to move to a new city for a new job. I struggled for a couple of months in Raleigh both personally and professionally to establish a routine and a familiarity with totally new surroundings. It was actually pretty recently that I started to feel really good about… everything. And THAT is a huge milestone, in my book.
The relationship I have now with Dock, Dizz and Bub, as you know, is beyond incredible. Milestone. Feeling confident about myself as a professional. Milestone. Finally letting go of someone who loves to disappoint me. Milestone. Trusting myself in the decisions I am making. Milestone. Maintaining a budget. Milestone. (Huge milestone. Going from bartending cash in the pocket whenever I wanted to a paycheck took a while to get used to)
The list goes on.
This move sort of forced me to grow up. Not in a harsh manner, but in more of an accountability way. And with that, I have become hugely self aware of what is important and what is not. (Milestone)
I have no idea what will happen next. What I do know is that I am already excited for it.
Naturally, that led me to reflect on my own milestones. As every girl at 16 does, I had a very defined timeline filled with the obvious milestones. Graduate from high school, go to a great college, fall in love, get a degree, get married, find a job, have some kids, become "the boss" at a young age...
Hellooooo ten years later. While I have celebrated several of those "milestones," it is amazing how much my priorities have changed. What I define as a milestone now, I wouldn't have understood even six months ago.
I truly believe that there were subtle stepping stones (say that three times fast) along the way to help me define what is important, and what can wait. I graduated high school, I went to an amazing college, I fell in love, I earned a degree, I moved to a big city, and I started my first job. This is where I began to understand that change is a good thing, and I can decide what to consider a milestone for myself, and celebrate it however I want to.
I took a big chance at the end of last year, and packed up my life to move to a new city for a new job. I struggled for a couple of months in Raleigh both personally and professionally to establish a routine and a familiarity with totally new surroundings. It was actually pretty recently that I started to feel really good about… everything. And THAT is a huge milestone, in my book.
The relationship I have now with Dock, Dizz and Bub, as you know, is beyond incredible. Milestone. Feeling confident about myself as a professional. Milestone. Finally letting go of someone who loves to disappoint me. Milestone. Trusting myself in the decisions I am making. Milestone. Maintaining a budget. Milestone. (Huge milestone. Going from bartending cash in the pocket whenever I wanted to a paycheck took a while to get used to)
The list goes on.
This move sort of forced me to grow up. Not in a harsh manner, but in more of an accountability way. And with that, I have become hugely self aware of what is important and what is not. (Milestone)
I have no idea what will happen next. What I do know is that I am already excited for it.
Monday, March 7, 2011
Who Do You Think You Are?
Recently, I was asked to review the four work styles, as defined by the American Association of Advertising Agencies, and classify myself into the thinking, feeling, sensing or intuiting category. This activity was familiar to me, in that I recalled exploring these characteristics in college to establish an idea of how I would be as a professional in the future. I also grew up very close to PR, so it shouldn't surprise you that Dock and I have discussed these work styles numerous times.
The difference this time is that I have a few years under my belt. I have gained experience with different types of agencies, surroundings, clients and colleagues. That being said, it was very easy to put my finger on exactly which work style I fit under.
Before I elaborate - take a minute to review each of the four work styles:
Thinking as a primary work style:
Positives:
• Fact-oriented
• Interested in background
• Systematic
• Logical
Negatives:
• Can't think “outside the box”
• Not flexible
• Insensitive/stubborn
• Slow
Behavioral Focus – Organizing; problem solver
Value Orientation – Quality; Being "right"
Time View – Linear (past, present, future)
Office Style – Neat
Feeling as a primary style:
Positives:
• They love people
• Informal
• Spontaneous
• Empathetic
Negatives:
• Just jump into tasks
• "Wishy washy"
• Not detail-oriented
• Too sensitive
Behavioral Focus – Expressive
Value Orientation – Family; Friendship; Loyalty; Need appreciation; Good at networking
Time View – Lives in the past
Office Styles – The holder of office culture; Probably have snacks, live plants and pictures on desk
Sensing as a primary style:
Positives:
• Action-oriented
• Results-minded (Quick results)
• Decisive
• Verbally direct
Negatives:
• Abrupt/aggressive
• Get caught up in the moment
• Impatient
• Competitive
Behavioral Focus – Fast movers; "make things happen"
Value Orientation – Personal achievement; high control of situations; hard to delegate tasks
Time View – Lives in the present
Office Style – Multitasker; Has multiple windows open on computer at once
Intuiting as a primary style:
Positives:
• Loves ideas
• Creative
• Original
• Idealistic
Negatives:
• Dislikes closure
• Not logical
• Don't care for others
• Not goal-orientated
Behavioral Focus – Imagining; Speculating; "In the heads, not in the hands"
Value Orientation – New
Time View – Future thinking
Office Styles - Messy
While I think it's safe to assume there are characteristics of each style that fit into parts of everyone as a professional, if you know me, you know my primary style falls almost flawlessly into Feeling.
Prior to starting a career, I would have deemed myself otherwise, and I do believe that should I re-evaluate after another couple of years, things will most likely change. For now, this was a fun activity that gave me great insight into not only myself as a professional, but also allowed me to understand more about the people I am in contact with on a daily basis.
What is your work style?
The difference this time is that I have a few years under my belt. I have gained experience with different types of agencies, surroundings, clients and colleagues. That being said, it was very easy to put my finger on exactly which work style I fit under.
Before I elaborate - take a minute to review each of the four work styles:
Thinking as a primary work style:
Positives:
• Fact-oriented
• Interested in background
• Systematic
• Logical
Negatives:
• Can't think “outside the box”
• Not flexible
• Insensitive/stubborn
• Slow
Behavioral Focus – Organizing; problem solver
Value Orientation – Quality; Being "right"
Time View – Linear (past, present, future)
Office Style – Neat
Feeling as a primary style:
Positives:
• They love people
• Informal
• Spontaneous
• Empathetic
Negatives:
• Just jump into tasks
• "Wishy washy"
• Not detail-oriented
• Too sensitive
Behavioral Focus – Expressive
Value Orientation – Family; Friendship; Loyalty; Need appreciation; Good at networking
Time View – Lives in the past
Office Styles – The holder of office culture; Probably have snacks, live plants and pictures on desk
Sensing as a primary style:
Positives:
• Action-oriented
• Results-minded (Quick results)
• Decisive
• Verbally direct
Negatives:
• Abrupt/aggressive
• Get caught up in the moment
• Impatient
• Competitive
Behavioral Focus – Fast movers; "make things happen"
Value Orientation – Personal achievement; high control of situations; hard to delegate tasks
Time View – Lives in the present
Office Style – Multitasker; Has multiple windows open on computer at once
Intuiting as a primary style:
Positives:
• Loves ideas
• Creative
• Original
• Idealistic
Negatives:
• Dislikes closure
• Not logical
• Don't care for others
• Not goal-orientated
Behavioral Focus – Imagining; Speculating; "In the heads, not in the hands"
Value Orientation – New
Time View – Future thinking
Office Styles - Messy
While I think it's safe to assume there are characteristics of each style that fit into parts of everyone as a professional, if you know me, you know my primary style falls almost flawlessly into Feeling.
Prior to starting a career, I would have deemed myself otherwise, and I do believe that should I re-evaluate after another couple of years, things will most likely change. For now, this was a fun activity that gave me great insight into not only myself as a professional, but also allowed me to understand more about the people I am in contact with on a daily basis.
What is your work style?
Sunday, January 30, 2011
They Call it Golden for a Reason
Despite any fears I had approaching the big 2-6 about entering my late twenties, spending it alone in a new city, etc I am surprised to admit that this has been a top birthday week. Between the incredible generosity of my colleagues, the overflowing mailbox and the vases of fresh flowers on my (newly decorated) desk I am humbled by how fortunate I am to have amazing friends and family.
I have also been very lucky to have spent the last couple of weeks in Raleigh to acclimate myself with the city, make my office a comfortable place to spend time in, and set up my new digs. I've checked out some of the restaurants, found a few malls, located all of the closest Starbucks and after a few hours of getting lost, I finally found a liquor store. (In North Carolina, they have weird liquor laws. They sell wine and beer at gas stations, but if you want the hard stuff, you have to search for it.)
In turning 26, the opportunity to spend time traveling has finally presented itself, and the calendar is filling up quickly. Some of these travels include trips to Baltimore for work that also allow me time with Dock and Dizz. Other travel plans include weekend road trips to the beach. (YAY!) In addition, I am extremely excited to have visitors lined up through the next several months.
This weekend, also known as mid-birthday week, Raleigh hosted the All Star Game and downtown Raleigh held their Fan Fest, bringing in concerts, and tons of fun activities for hockey enthusiasts to enjoy. Along with the experience, the weather was in the mid 60's - I don't think I have ever had a January birthday where I was outside without a jacket.
All in all, I am feeling much better about 26 than I ever expected to, and I genuinely believe this is going to an amazing year. I am ecstatic to be spending it in Raleigh, growing in my career and enjoying everything my 'late twenties' have to offer.
I have also been very lucky to have spent the last couple of weeks in Raleigh to acclimate myself with the city, make my office a comfortable place to spend time in, and set up my new digs. I've checked out some of the restaurants, found a few malls, located all of the closest Starbucks and after a few hours of getting lost, I finally found a liquor store. (In North Carolina, they have weird liquor laws. They sell wine and beer at gas stations, but if you want the hard stuff, you have to search for it.)
In turning 26, the opportunity to spend time traveling has finally presented itself, and the calendar is filling up quickly. Some of these travels include trips to Baltimore for work that also allow me time with Dock and Dizz. Other travel plans include weekend road trips to the beach. (YAY!) In addition, I am extremely excited to have visitors lined up through the next several months.
This weekend, also known as mid-birthday week, Raleigh hosted the All Star Game and downtown Raleigh held their Fan Fest, bringing in concerts, and tons of fun activities for hockey enthusiasts to enjoy. Along with the experience, the weather was in the mid 60's - I don't think I have ever had a January birthday where I was outside without a jacket.
All in all, I am feeling much better about 26 than I ever expected to, and I genuinely believe this is going to an amazing year. I am ecstatic to be spending it in Raleigh, growing in my career and enjoying everything my 'late twenties' have to offer.
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Leadership. Or something like it.
This morning I was given the opportunity to meet Paul Maurice, head coach of the Carolina Hurricanes, and listen to him speak on leadership. While his entire presentation was thought-provoking, there was a part that really resinated with me.
As you know, about 6 weeks ago I accepted a new position, made the decision to relocate to Raleigh and have not stopped moving since. While this has been the most exciting time of my life, it's also full of change. Nearly everything about this transition is unfamiliar, therefore a lot of my time is spent learning and listening. Learning new processes, learning new colleagues - adapting to new surroundings all around. That being said, during this morning's discussion, Maurice mentioned 3 things he has absorbed through his career that I wrote down, with hopes I can apply this advice to all that is changing and new. While he recommended these ideas as important in becoming a successful leader, I feel that they're quite fitting in finding success as a professional.
First - Ask questions, even when you think you know the answer.
Second - Display an absolute, undeniable belief in yourself, especially when you're not sure.
Lastly - Speak in public as often as possible, as this is where most people are most uncomfortable.
It's safe to assume that the most obvious reason this portion stuck out to me is because these are three traits that I, personally tend to sometimes lack. While I have always been the person who has the most questions, I am rarely the one that asks. I fear that in asking questions, I am placing burden on someone who has other things to concentrate on.
The second basically defines confidence in your work. As a confident person outside of the office, I absolutely need to find a similar confidence in my new position. This is something prior to this morning I have thought about, and set a goal for myself to become acclimated with the new job & city before March 1, with hopes that will inspire confidence.
As for speaking in public, this varies by situation, but when I get nervous before hand, it's over. I tend to break out into a very attractive sweat, with a bright red face and chest. Clearly, this is something I need to practice more often to overcome.
I really enjoyed this morning, and am looking forward to similar experiences in the future. It's really exciting to be in a community of young professionals who are excited to network, learn and grow together.
And, oh yeah - GO CANES!
As you know, about 6 weeks ago I accepted a new position, made the decision to relocate to Raleigh and have not stopped moving since. While this has been the most exciting time of my life, it's also full of change. Nearly everything about this transition is unfamiliar, therefore a lot of my time is spent learning and listening. Learning new processes, learning new colleagues - adapting to new surroundings all around. That being said, during this morning's discussion, Maurice mentioned 3 things he has absorbed through his career that I wrote down, with hopes I can apply this advice to all that is changing and new. While he recommended these ideas as important in becoming a successful leader, I feel that they're quite fitting in finding success as a professional.
First - Ask questions, even when you think you know the answer.
Second - Display an absolute, undeniable belief in yourself, especially when you're not sure.
Lastly - Speak in public as often as possible, as this is where most people are most uncomfortable.
It's safe to assume that the most obvious reason this portion stuck out to me is because these are three traits that I, personally tend to sometimes lack. While I have always been the person who has the most questions, I am rarely the one that asks. I fear that in asking questions, I am placing burden on someone who has other things to concentrate on.
The second basically defines confidence in your work. As a confident person outside of the office, I absolutely need to find a similar confidence in my new position. This is something prior to this morning I have thought about, and set a goal for myself to become acclimated with the new job & city before March 1, with hopes that will inspire confidence.
As for speaking in public, this varies by situation, but when I get nervous before hand, it's over. I tend to break out into a very attractive sweat, with a bright red face and chest. Clearly, this is something I need to practice more often to overcome.
I really enjoyed this morning, and am looking forward to similar experiences in the future. It's really exciting to be in a community of young professionals who are excited to network, learn and grow together.
And, oh yeah - GO CANES!
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